Can Mail Order Brides Sites Find Good Wives?

If you, like hundreds of other single men, have concerns about the legitimacy of mail order brides services, read on. We will tell you everything you need to know about these websites and share some tips that should help you choose a truly reliable, effective dating platform.

And now, not to bury the lead, we’ll answer that question in the title. Yes, mail order brides services can help find perfect wives. Provided, of course, you are using a legitimate website. That is why it is so important to understand the logic behind these sites, the features they must ensure, and the reasons why women join such services. Ready? Then, let’s go and answer all these questions!

For starters, you have to understand that a brides site is a pretty selective platform, targeting people interested in marriage. The least serious relationship goal on such sites is a long-term commitment. The end goal is still marriage and a bride’s relocation to a new country. So, such sites simply do not allow looking for same-sex partners or casual hookups. Neither they work in your immediate vicinity. It’s technically possible to join a website that would feature women from the same country as you, and maybe even meet your match there.

However, most of the time, that’s not how things go. After all, ladies who join international dating platforms have their reasons looking for a foreign husband. Most of the time, they are disappointed in the local matches and want something different in life. The same is true for men — you, too, obviously have your reasons to consider international marriage. Many men just assume that since most brides come from developing countries, they simply want to marry someone better off and move to a more civilized state. That’s not true because mail order brides sites work in the US, Canada, Australia, the UK, and pretty much in all other developed, Western European countries. Still, brides are specifically looking for foreign partners, just like men are specifically looking for foreign brides.

We will pay closer attention to the brides’ potential motives in a different section of this article. Right now, we’ll just have to sum up the essentials. Most of the brides do, indeed, come from second-world countries with still-developing economies. However, most single men from developed countries are also interested in those particular regions. Women in these states are less selfish, more hard-working, and way more family-centered. That makes them ideal matches for a man with a traditional family focus.

As for the exact locations, Asia, Latin America, and Eastern Europe seem to be the most popular destinations for brides hunting. You can find services that operate within such vast regions. Or, you could find websites that deal with one particular country. Unfortunately, you will not find a site that works in every little corner of the globe. Such a scope would be too broad for a single business. Especially if you consider that most sites launch local offices in the countries and geographic areas they represent on their websites. They do it for highly important security reasons we will be discussing below.

The payment logic will largely depend on the site. Some run on fixed-price subscriptions, and users are supposed to pay for those in advance. The more months you order, the lower the cost of each month will be. Some other sites work on the per-credit system. For some people, it may be more beneficial because it allows paying only for communication means you need and use. Subscriptions, on the contrary, will usually sell communication options ‘in bulk,’ and men may end up not using some of them. On the other hand, per-credit payments have a fixed price on every message and minute of chat used. As opposed to subscriptions (that go down in price for long-term customers), communication fees in the credit system remain unchanged, no matter how much you chat or how long you’re using the website. In other words, per-credit (aka, per-service) payment has no discounts at all. 

Plus, if you consider that most men spend around a year on brides services, it might be a more reasonable idea to find a reputable site and become a full member for at least year. An annual subscription on unlimited communication will cost from $150 to $200, depending on the particular service. This choice, however, is entirely up to you — as long as the site verifies its users and protects your privacy, the actual billing logic is a matter of personal preference.

Since we’re discussing mail order brides in general, it won’t be possible to focus on purely cultural peculiarities. Instead, we suggest you research them on your own — after (or in the process of) defining your geographic area of interest. We will only describe the kind of woman it takes to join an international marriage service:

• Straightforward and open-minded: most women, even those who want to get married and start a family, play coy about their intentions. Online brides do not — they state their relationship goals pretty clearly. Often, this straightforward attitude transfers to other spheres of life as well. These women know what they want and why they do something. So, most of them have no problem expressing their motives or desires.
• Adventurous and courageous: at the same time, it takes certain courage to change one’s life. In these women’s particular case, a move to a foreign country would uproot their lives entirely. However, most are ready for the change and even welcome it with all their hearts. We’d call such a mix ‘part adventurous, part brave.’
• Patient and determined: dating online is not all about courage or adventure. Just like men need about a year to find a wife, women need the same amount of time to find a good husband. So, it’s also about patience and determination when working towards a particular goal. Patient women eventually succeed.
• Caring and family-focused: today, most women have multiple opportunities to express themselves. Getting married and starting a family is no longer their only means of self-expression — not even in patriarchal Asia. But still — online brides are determined to find good husbands and create lasting families. Such a desire has only one explanation for it — these women have good hearts and want to take care of someone. So, their family and social mindsets are highly traditional. One may even call them old-fashioned.
• Hard-working and resourceful: finding the means to meet good matches, registering with the dating agency, taking time to date online — all of those require time and effort. And it’s not like online brides have nothing to do with their time: they work, they study, they take care of their parents or raise children from former marriages. And yet — they keep working to build their own happiness. That requires a lot of time and energy, adding credibility to the above statement.

To wrap it all up, reliable mail order brides sites work quite effectively. More importantly, they offer some of the best shots at happiness for single, family-focused men. Don’t waste it and register with one of these services to find your perfect wife!